Considering the fact that i watch a lot of TV and reality
shows, and the fact that i know tons of people i’m constantly being exposed to
love issues. I don’t often write articles, in 99% of cases i write and post
about fashion but today i have a huge wave of an inspiration and an urge to
write about love, and the problems that it brings with itself.
After years of other people boring me with their problems in love i finally got the big picture, the main problem. Those are not the argues, misunderstandings, lack of love, financial problems… in the very same end it’s about happiness and self-honesty that are missing.
Let me explain…
After years of other people boring me with their problems in love i finally got the big picture, the main problem. Those are not the argues, misunderstandings, lack of love, financial problems… in the very same end it’s about happiness and self-honesty that are missing.
Let me explain…
I will give you two examples.
a)Imagine you are a girl that likes to party and that simply
cannot settle down, and all of a sudden you stop being that girl, and you fall
in love with the male version of previous you. In the beginning you were just
friends, than you became friends with sympathies, than friends with benefits,
and after that the shit happened, emotions got involved. All of a sudden you
want him all for you, you cannot stand
seeing him with someone else, but he isn’t ready for that yet. After that, you ‘delete’
him from your life, but after
some time you realize you can’t lose him completely, you can’t be friends with him, and he isn’t
ready to go a step forward. What do you do? Pretend to be okay with the fact
that your just friends, or with the fact that he’s seeing other girls? Should
you wait for him to take courage? Do you lie to yourself and play his friend by
giving him advises how to win others while you’re dying inside?
b)You are a rich girl from powerful family, but you fall in love with the average, bad boy. At the very beginning of that romance-novel drama you realize that your possibilities and aspects of life are very different. At the first you’re okay with the fact that he cannot afford you the luxuries such as eating croissants in the coffee place next to the Louis Vuitton Maison, or taking you to the romantic weekends or expensive restaurants, or gift you with highly expensive presents for which you are used to.. Maybe that is okay with you, but i still believe that he won’t be okay with it. However, it’s not the problem that he isn’t happy with it, the problem is that he will start trying changing you, your personality and your dreams for his sake. When you walk down the street wearing your suede leather Manolo Blahnik’s, a satin de la Renta dress, a beautiful Dolce&Gabbana coat, a cashmire foulard, a birkin bag, appropriate accessories such as the Cartier watch, Erickson Beamon necklace, Chopard earrings, and a vintage hand-made ring that has been worn by your grandma in the early 70s. And then you see him dolled up for 200 bucks. Everyone would feel a bit irrelevant next to that girl. Do you leave your Manolos for him and his happiness, or you stay loyal to them and to yourself and lose him? If he loves you, why does he want you to change? This might seem funny, that people break up because of a shoe. It’s not the shoe that matters, that shoe shows him and the world that you’re a class above him, and by that you hurt his ego. And when the ego is hurt… problems starts. (This example isn’t made from movies, i know people who had/have this kind of problem)
b)You are a rich girl from powerful family, but you fall in love with the average, bad boy. At the very beginning of that romance-novel drama you realize that your possibilities and aspects of life are very different. At the first you’re okay with the fact that he cannot afford you the luxuries such as eating croissants in the coffee place next to the Louis Vuitton Maison, or taking you to the romantic weekends or expensive restaurants, or gift you with highly expensive presents for which you are used to.. Maybe that is okay with you, but i still believe that he won’t be okay with it. However, it’s not the problem that he isn’t happy with it, the problem is that he will start trying changing you, your personality and your dreams for his sake. When you walk down the street wearing your suede leather Manolo Blahnik’s, a satin de la Renta dress, a beautiful Dolce&Gabbana coat, a cashmire foulard, a birkin bag, appropriate accessories such as the Cartier watch, Erickson Beamon necklace, Chopard earrings, and a vintage hand-made ring that has been worn by your grandma in the early 70s. And then you see him dolled up for 200 bucks. Everyone would feel a bit irrelevant next to that girl. Do you leave your Manolos for him and his happiness, or you stay loyal to them and to yourself and lose him? If he loves you, why does he want you to change? This might seem funny, that people break up because of a shoe. It’s not the shoe that matters, that shoe shows him and the world that you’re a class above him, and by that you hurt his ego. And when the ego is hurt… problems starts. (This example isn’t made from movies, i know people who had/have this kind of problem)
At this very same moment, while i’m writing this I realize
that many people will think, what does he know, he’s a guy, he hasn’t
experienced enough…
Maybe that’s truth, in theory everything is easy, but in
practice it’s way more different than that.
I have asked you many questions now, which haven’t been answered.
Let me solve that with another question.
Every time you get to that point when you start feeling unhappy in a relationship ask yourself this: Would you rather be stupid and happy, or honest to yourself and unhappy?
Remember two things: 1st: Only the truly lucky ones have that combination of being true to themselves and happy!
Every time you get to that point when you start feeling unhappy in a relationship ask yourself this: Would you rather be stupid and happy, or honest to yourself and unhappy?
Remember two things: 1st: Only the truly lucky ones have that combination of being true to themselves and happy!
2nd: Don't lie to yourself, because you can't lie forever, eventually you'll snap and finish everything in a bad way.
I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THIS WORLD WITH LOVE, BECAUSE IT IS WORTH FIGHTING AND WHEN YOU FIND 'THE ONE', THE PERFECT MATCH, THE MISSING PIECE OF A PUZZLE ALL THE TROUBLES, AND TEARS WILL BE FORGOTTEN!
Love you all very much,
Author: fashionAlist (Nemania L.)
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